James Valvano Speaks


James is such a bright spot in our lives. Even though his life and time here on Earth was far too short, we are incredibly blessed and grateful that he is, was, and always will be our precious little boy and that he is our gift to love and cherish. James taught us so much about a parent’s love for their child and how we would have done anything for him.

It’s so hard to believe that we’ve now lived for 2 years without him. We think about him and pray for him every day, we talk about him and include him in everything we do with his brother and sister, and in that way he is always with us. Our new family tradition is to decorate our Christmas tree every year on his birthday as that was the last thing we did as a family before he passed away.

There are no words to describe the pain of losing your child. But our love for him is a constant. Knowing we will see him again in Heaven at the end of our days here makes Heaven seem a little bit closer every day. And the support we received and continue to receive from our family and friends, including at Abel Speaks, give us space to talk about James, say his name out loud, and keep his memory alive. We are incredibly grateful.


Abel Speaks was there for us and James in our darkest time.

The love and support we received from the whole Abel Speaks team and community gave us the strength we needed to be able to make it through accepting James’ Trisomy 18 diagnosis, to focus on loving him every moment of his life, and to survive losing him.

As Abel Speaks says, support changes stories. It certainly changed ours for the better.

By faith, James still speaks!

-Allie & Ross Valvano


Your generous giving allows Abel Speaks to support families like ours. Thank you for your partnership as we seek to ensure that every family will cherish their child’s life and have hope in the midst of sorrow!

Abel Speaks is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and all donations are tax-deductible.

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